Sunday, 31 October 2010
Catch Up on Happiness
MMMmmmmmmmmmm 'favourite words memories from books i've read...i love reading poetry if i read a book and it grabs me then i cannot put it down there are only a few that stand out in my memory...i cannot remember the words or paragraphs but in A thousand splendid Suns by Khalid Hussain, nearing the end, there was apart of it i felt totally overwhelmed by....see if i can explain...The maturer woman (wife)sacrificed herself for the younger woman(wife)to set her 'free' from the living hell they were both experiencing and the younger woman returned to a place that brought back the memory and feelings it was sad but inspirational that the sacrifice was acknowledged in such a magical and beautiful way ...i thought it was an amazing life story reflecting so many issues. My favourite words are those from the Desiderata of Happiness - that poem has kept me going soooo many times in my life when i've struggled .........
Desiderata
Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.
Max Ehrmann, Desiderata, Copyright 1952.
The Happy Book: Week 10 from Jamie Ridler on Vimeo.
MMMMM Comfort...i have so many comforting things in my life i'm so blessed cuddling up to Chella is tops.. wearing snuggly socks and curling up on the settee with the fire on is second to none, being in bed...and anything warm on toast with a cup of tea or even better a milky coffee is the other they are my top four..toast and milky coffee are special as when i have them i remember my grandfather George (my male role model in life who'm i adored!) and my loving grandmother Mary from my dads side(who made a trip to my paternal grandparents more than worth while i've such fond memories of her).
The Happy Book: Week 9 from Jamie Ridler on Vimeo.
The Happy Book: Week 7 from Jamie Ridler on Vimeo.
This is great ....focus on what makes you happy...those small moments that make you smile, feel warm and evoke positivity...
I love these moments and one stands out for me this week................I looked after my good friends 'house'cats this weekend and my son came with me one day (by default) i looked on with a warm smile and a good feeling as this 'macho' young man instinctively got down on the floor found the cats toy basket ( which i hadn't a clue was there!)and played with the cats, he was so patient,gentle and fun loving with them...i rarely see him these days (even when in the same house he only usually sits with us to eat as he has a social life that we are just not part of now)and I was sooooo touched when i saw this it made me 'really happy' ...I've added it to his 'so you think you know me album'
I'm already gathering post its with my moments for this weeks...started on Sunday with my lovely walk through the farmland at the back of where i live...and Mondays snuggle with Chel after a long monday at work and Tuesday... today's girly giggle and laugh in the office with Bev and Doreen chortle.. chortle...
Saturday, 30 October 2010
Getting into the zone!
Thursday, 28 October 2010
Jamie Ridlers Wishcasting Wednesday
More food for thought here...and i'm late with my wishcasting but have been giving this some thought.I'm not a 'shedder' i'm a real horder it's hard for me to 'let go' i 'think a lot', 'ponder a lot' and couldn't instantly think of anything i'd like to shed...then ...i think about how busy my little head is such a lot of the time... and how i sometimes listen to some of the negative thought a little too much sometimes.I find i have some limiting thoughts and beliefs about myself ... sometimes i rationalise this as i think i am only being realistic ... I make choices in the way i behave ... trying to preserve my energy and not allow it to scatter to much some interactions can be sooo draining and i have a choice do i assert myself, express myself or tap into my higher self.
I'd like to shed some of my long held self limiting beliefs in my everyday work....:
- That i'm too slow at completing my work .
Yep I'm slower but hey you can afford to be if its to make sure you do it right the first time round'
- That i do not manage time well.
It isn't the end of the world to be a little late..when you've touched someone's day by giving a little extra.
- That my opinions are less important than others.
I can choose which opinions i share with others some are mine and mine only.. there's strength in silence sometimes.
- That i must do what i am told without having an opinion about it.
It's o.k to unpick changes thrust upon you and to challenge gently with a focus on purpose isn't destructive.
- That i am a 'quirky' outsider
I am a child of the universe deserving of love and a place in the world as much as everyone else.
- That what i say isn't worth listening to.
Words are only a tiny part of communication so much more is conveyed non verbally and in your actions and the energy you emit to others.
I'm shedding my self limiting beliefs now........................
Wednesday, 20 October 2010
Jamie Ridlers Wishcasting Wednesday
http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xf7dg5_rihanna-only-girl-in-the-world_music
What does the soft animal of your body desire?
This is an exciting thought....i feel i've a very feline soft animal side to me...I want it all and i'd like it all my own way with as little responsibility as possible! i'd love to selfishly curl up on a warm surface and sleep when i want to...i'd love to play out in the fresh air rolling around in the leaves and slip in, through the cat flap, to my warm home with a meal prepared for me.I would love to revoke any responsibility toward others and please myself...oooh so completely different to how i operate on a day to day basis but an exciting thought...i like the thought of being able to be self sufficient having the ability to hunt and prowl around in the night slipping into others homes and having alies that also look after me by simply being cute! I have to be honest i sometimes find things such hard work my soft animal just wants a life with more soft flow time being inspired and spending time as i want ..........I soooooooooo desire this
Wild Geese
You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves.
Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.
Meanwhile the world goes on.
Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain
are moving across the landscapes,
over the prairies and the deep trees,
the mountains and the rivers.
Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air,
are heading home again.
Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination,
calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting--
over and over announcing your place
in the family of things.
© Mary Oliver. Online Source